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"It's not for me. It's for my spouse."

Just in the past couple weeks, I have had a few people say this to me. These were concerned partners asking about their loved ones.  Their partners are professionals in the health care field, in a first response role and in management in a long term facility.
How do we help the ones we love?  My single piece of advice for everyone is, if you do one thing and one thing only, recommend they see a professional mental health counsellor with a specialty in compassion fatigue and vicarious trauma.

What is really holding you back?

Do you have a long list of things you want to do and can never seem to get done?  
Changes you have committed to making, yet don't make them?  Those many New Year's resolutions?
Some of mine;
-giving blood regularly
-register to donate organs if I die
-organize my income tax papers better
-get more quinoa in my diet
- more exercise
-quit biting/picking my nails 

Yes, some of these things have been on my list a very long time and some of them have been on my list more than once!
I have made many positive changes in the last few years.

Pictures from recent events

OMSSA Presentation June 2013

Compassion Fatigue Conference June 2013

Compassion Fatigue Information Session 
Smiths Falls April 2013

Kayaking with my sisters on The Rideau July 2013

The Cumulative Effect of CF and VT

As I travel this current journey of mine, trying to support and educate others about compassion fatigue and vicarious trauma, I have to keep looking back.  I have to look to the times and event that lead me to here in order for me to support others.
How did I get here?  When I left my job in social services after 21 years, I was managing really well.  I was very in tune with my needs and had spent the previous 2 years putting many supports in place for myself.  So if things were better why did I still say I had CF and how come I still felt I had to leave my job?

What I learn at my workshops

I am always as excited to find out what I will learn at my workshops.  
This is what I have picked up along the way.
At one of my first presentations to a group of amazing teachers, I told them I wanted to become a vegetarian.  They gave me some advice and a few weeks later I stopped eating meat.  It has been over 1 1/2 years.
Elephant Ear Hosta is  a great plant for shade gardens.  Clematis root needs to be shaded.
Paramedics feel invisible.  Fire and police seem to get all the attention.

Sometimes it just doesn't work...

I can laugh now as I write this because I am always trying to be aware of the ongoing need for self-compassion.
I am finally able to do things everyday to really take care of myself.  I do some yoga stretches (now outside in the sun!) which is a wonderful way to start the day.  I try to meditate every other day with Deepak Chopra's guided meditations.  I highly recommend you get his Wellness Meditation package.  It is 21 days discussing health and science of our bodies with a short meditation and with the most beautiful music.

Sharing the Message

Recently I held a Compassion Fatigue Information Session in Smiths Falls.  It was attended by 30 people from a great cross section of services.  Yes, I padded the numbers with a few family members, but they enjoyed the message also!
We had staff from health, childcare, youth services, Ontario Works, United Way, senior support services and education.  These people were very supportive about my message and certainly admitted to recognizing themselves and others with some of the stories I told, and the information I provided.

Upcoming events

I am excited to be participating in some exciting events in the next few months.  
I am hosting an information session in my community of Smiths Falls April 3, 2013.  If you are in the area and want to join us, please register by contacting me through our contact page on this site.  It is a general overview of the topic of Compassion Fatigue and what I, and others can provide to support people in the human services and in a care giving role.  This is also a chance to say thank you to my own community for what they do for my family and neighbours.

Tools and resources Professional Quality of Life survey which can help you find out where you are on the scale for compassion satisfaction and compassion fatigue Holmes and Rahe Life Stress scale - an effective tool for finding out your current situation - info about a unique technique using a combination of acupressure and modern psychology - brain science and behaviour information with videos, webinars and many more resources

Monthly newsletter ideas

I am currently preparing a monthly newsletter.  I would like to know what you may want in a newsletter, and if you would like to receive mine.  This is what I am thinking;
Only send once a month- I find some send info too often and I don't get to read it, therefore, it is not helpful,
Only have one page- if it is too long I lose interest, especially if I get it while I am working
Include a video component- I have received video newsletters which are a nice change and I also like videos included or links as I am a visual learner,

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"It's not for me. It's for my spouse."
What is really holding you back?
Pictures from recent events
The Cumulative Effect of CF and VT
What I learn at my workshops


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